A Good Enough Christmas
An old family photo taught me an important holiday lesson.
The Greatest Christmas Card Photo of All Time.
This post first appeared on HerKentucky in 2012; today felt like a nice day to repost it.
I like perfection.
If things are in their place, we're all happier and more productive, right? Why have a bookshelf when you can have a color-coded bookshelf? And, if every tree is perfect, every serving dish is perfectly chosen, every decoration is perfectly spaced, then we'll all have the happiest Christmas ever, right?
Well, at least that's how I've always seen it. In my head, the holidays take on a Martha Stewart meets Southern Living meets Pinterest air of forced perfection. I want things just so, damn it. I choose a color and a theme for each holiday season, and I like to stick to it. My Christmas cards match my tree which matches the presents. It just looks so nice that way.
This photo is about Love. With a Capital L
This weekend, I was putting up the tree when I realized I'd spent a full hour fluffing branches and positioning lights. To be fair, the tree looked amazing but, you know, there still weren't any ornaments. And then I undertook the Great Wrapping The Ribbon Around the Tree Incident of 2012. We shan't speak of it.
Plenty.
My beau, God bless him, often tries to gently remind me that the holidays can never be as perfect as I envision them. Every day of December can't look like the L.L. Bean catalog, he reminds me, and every day (much to his delight and my chagrin) doesn't come with a Michael Bublé holiday soundtrack. And all I do is wear myself out trying to make it so.
That's my grandpa on the far left with the sweet bowtie.
Recently, I was going through some photos of Christmases at my great-grandparents' house. They had six kids, including my paternal grandmother. By all accounts, Christmas was a big crazy party with lots of family, food, and fun. As I looked at these pictures, it didn't stand out to me that they didn't have a ton of money. It didn't matter what people wore or what dishes they ate from. They looked... happy. They were genuinely glad to be with each other on Christmas. It wasn't forced or overproduced. It was a holiday with family. And that was enough.
Now, I'm not exactly going to give away my beloved Spode Christmas china, nor am I taking down any of my many themed trees. But, this Christmas, I am going to try to slow down and enjoy the season. People and memories are more important than the perfectly decorated cookie. Maybe happiness is good enough.
Old Christmas
The Appalachian tradition of Old Christmas; a celebration of the Feast of Epiphany.
One of the holiday traditions that's stuck with me from growing up in Eastern Kentucky is the idea that January the 6th is Old Christmas. I'd always heard that it's the day you take your Christmas tree down, the day that the Magi arrived and, that, curiously, farm animals could talk on Old Christmas. It was always referred to as a custom that the old folks had followed; an old story among Appalachians of an era past.
Image via Dave Berry Photography.
Of course, this celebration refers to Epiphany, or Twelfth Night, the day on which the Magi arrived. The celebration actually predates the observation of the Feast of the Nativity, and is known to have been observed as early as 380 A.D.. The observation of Old Christmas was brought to the Appalachian Mountains by Scotch-Irish settlers; traditions that sprung up around Old Christmas included the idea that animals could be heard to pray and the superstition that anything you lend to someone on this day will never be returned.
Adoration of the Magi, Sandro Botticelli
So many old traditions and old linguistic patterns were still evident in the Appalachia of my youth. I try to keep a little bit of that by holding on to my Christmas decorations until Old Christmas. I haven't heard any cattle lowing just yet, but maybe someday...
HerKentucky's Holiday Wish List for your Favorite Kentuckian
Great gifts for your favorite Kentuckian.
For our final HerKentucky Holiday Gift Guide, here are a few of the best ways to show Kentucky pride. These are great gifts for your favorite Kentuckian, or even to treat yourself!
Hand-Embroidered Kentucky Pillow from Uncommon Goods. Such a gorgeous way to celebrate the Commonwealth
Bourbonware Rocks Glass. A seriously sophisticated way to drink your bourbon.
Andrew Jackson shirt, Kentucky for Kentucky This shirt makes me laugh. Bob and I each have one.
Shop Local Kentucky Buffalo Plaid Shirt. These are dropping just after Christmas. I'm trying to decide if I need the Blue or Red plaid. (Or both)
Maya Brenner Designs Necklace. This necklace is an amazing gift. I wear mine all the time, and get so many compliments. Sarah Holland has the version with a diamond over her hometown of Paducah, to nobody's surprise! :)
Kentucky Necklace from The Prickly Pear. This is so fun and unique. It reminds me of the iconic "Carrie" necklace from Sex and the City, and it's inexpensive enough that you can go ahead and pick one up for yourself.
Kentucky "Home" Shirt from The Home T. The Prickly Pear has sizes from baby onesies to adults. These are great for expatriates, locals, and basically anybody who loves the Bluegrass State.
Weep No More, My Lady Letterpress Print from The Old Try. What a charming way to add Kentucky Pride to your office or den!
Pottery Rowe Bluegrass Garden Kit from A Taste of Kentucky. Everything you need to grow a little Kentucky Bluegrass wherever you'd like. I think this would be amazing for your favorite homesick Kentuckian!
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HerKentucky's Holiday Wish List for the Bourbon Lover
The best holiday presents for bourbon lovers
Most Kentuckians have at least one serious bourbon lover on their holiday gift list. Many of us have plenty of bourbon lovers who'd just adore a present that celebrates Kentucky's signature spirit. Here are the absolute best pieces of bourbon swag I've seen this year; I'm sure the folks on your holiday list would agree!
Grandpa's Cough Syrup Needlepoint Flask, Smathers & Branson. What a hilarious way to transport a little nip!
HerKentucky's Shot of Bourbon Tee. If you'd rather be somebody's shot of bourbon than everybody's cup of tee, we've got the right shirt for you!
A bottle of 23 year-old Pappy Van Winkle's Family Reserve. Why not shoot for the good stuff?
Drink More Bourbon, Y'all Leather Coasters by Clayton & Crume. These are gorgeous, high-quality waxed leather coasters with an important embossed message.
Subscription to the Bourbon Review. The best way to keep up with the latest labels and trends in bourbon.
A bottle of Willett Pot Still Reserve. This high-corn and rye blend is getting great reviews.
I'd Rather Be Drinking Bourbon Mug, Louisville Stoneware. This is on my own letter to Santa this year. Why not serve up your morning coffee with a shot of truth?
An individual bourbon barrel with your favorite team's logo, Bluegrass Barrels. Dispense your favorite blend from a unique tabletop barrel.
Bourbon and Bad Decisions Tee, Bourbon Built. Y'all, I just love this. It gets straight to the point.
23-Year Pappy Long-Sleeved Tee, Pappy & Co. If you can't give a bottle of Pappy, this gorgeous shirt is the next best thing.
We've teamed with some of our very favorite Kentucky-based brands to help you (or your favorite bourbon lover) out a little. We're offering y'all three exciting bourbon swag giveaways. You can enter to win a Bourbon & Bad Decisions tee, a Pappy & Co long-sleeved tee, or a set of 4 Clayton & Crume leather coasters using the Rafflecopter widgets below.
Cheers, y'all!