What's the Big Deal about Derby Festival?

Image via Kentucky Derby Festival.
I'd been living in Louisville for a couple of months when April rolled around. Suddenly, the questions started coming from colleagues and clients:

"What are you doing for Thunder?"
"Have you eaten at the Chow Wagon yet?"
"Have you bought your Pegasus pin?"

Now, before I moved to Louisville, I thought I knew Derby.  I'd been to the race itself, of course.  I even knew that Louisvillians considered Oaks to be THE must-see race rather than its next day Big Brother.  But the Derby Festival events left me perplexed.  I knew I'd seen framed posters for Festivals past; they're inescapable in offices and family rooms in the Louisville Metro area.  Still, I had no idea what the events entailed.  Why would I wear a $3 lapel pin from Kroger? Is a Chow Wagon more appetizing than it sounds? And Thunder is just a bunch of fireworks, right?

After living through that Derby season, I learned that Derby Festival is one of those events that separates true Louisvillians from visitors.  The Pegasus pin is not only a key to admission at the Festival's events; it's symbolic of  a fourteen-day celebration of the Derby City itself.   Before Louisville becomes overrun with celebs and race enthusiasts, it fetes its own natives with steamboat races, parades, concerts, and fireworks.  It's a two-week party that unites Louisvillians from a variety of backgrounds and interests.
Image via Thunder Over Louisville
By the following April, I was far better-versed in Derby Festival events.  When Thunder Over Louisville kicked off the season, I knew that the private parties in downtown office buildings were a more comfortable and enjoyable alternative to mingling with the massive crowds that congregate for the fireworks show.   Since my beau and I aren't much for big, rowdy crowds or fireworks, we learned to time our dinner reservations to avoid the Thunder madness.  We even found that we could watch a good bit of the fireworks display from our Highlands condo.  As we fell into a few Derby Festival routines of our own -- Oaks brunches, the Chow Wagon, cocktails at the Seelbach -- we found that we weren't just celebrating the Greatest of all Horse Races.  We were celebrating the fact that Louisville is a great place to live.

Have y'all attended any Derby Festival events?
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Entertaining: Baby Shower 101

I love entertaining. I also have a lot of friends of reproductive age. As a result, I threw SIX baby showers last year.


You could say I'm a bit of an expert.

Here is the general process I go through when planning a shower.

1. Pick a theme. I know old school Southern showers don't have a theme beyond cake and flowers but I like a theme. It makes it easier to pick everything from invites to food. It doesn't have to be an object (airplanes, hot air balloons). It could be just a feel. Last year, I hosted a shower where the theme was frilly florals. You just want a general aesthetic to lend a sense of consistency to everything.



2. Invites. I spend a lot of time on invites because I think they set the stage well for theme and get people excited about coming. I usually make them myself. However, if I'm running low on time, I'll find a printable invite on etsy, which usually cost about $15, and then print them myself.

3. Pre-planning. Next, I sit down and sketch out how I want the table to look, any pendants I plan on hanging, favors, and games. After doing all that, I can figure out how much I can make beforehand and if I can make it before hand, I do. I like to have everything made up and ready to go at least a week before the shower so I can focus on the food.



4. Food. A few days before I get all my supplies so the morning of the shower everything is ready to go. Sometimes I make the cake the day before as well but it depends on what type of cake.

5. Party! The day of the event I try to finish everything up at least a half an hour before so I have time to take pictures of everything all set up. Rarely works out that way but once guests start arriving I want to be able to just relax and enjoy all my hard work!

~ Sarah Stewart Holland 
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Rescue Dogs

I am, by no means, one of those women that go crazy for animals. In fact, I'm really not much of an animal person at all. I do confess to getting squeally about baby animal nature shows - flash me a shot of twin baby polar bears, baby elephants or baby tiger cubs, and I'm your captive audience. My husband knows this about me, which is why he sent me the following email in late March:

Do you want to get a puppy? I found one that's cuter than a baby polar bear.

We've had dogs in the past, but our lifestyle then featured lots of weekend travel to whitewater rivers across the southeast US. It wasn't conducive to a great life for pets. We'd talked about it for a while. Since I stopped traveling as much, I realized that I got pretty lonely at home by myself on the weekends. I also started running and envied the runners I'd see out with their gorgeous four-legged running mates. I doubted my husband's ability to judge a mere puppy to be cuter than a baby polar bear so I demanded photographic evidence.

He delivered.
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This little guy, who we later named Boof, came into the world as a rescue dog. His mother, pregnant with what we think was a planned litter of 13 puppies, was abandoned. She was picked up in Cincinnati, Ohio - the worst possible place for her. For a long time, our neighbors to the north were governed my a statewide ban on "bully" breeds. However, in early 2012, that ban was lifted. Pet owners could choose to own their choice of dog breeds. However, Cincinnati never overturned the citywide ban. It is still in effect. When Boof's mother was picked up by the Cincinnati Humane Society, she was scheduled for euthanization the following day. I don't know the details, but the Sharonville SPCA organization was able to take possession of her and place her in a home rescue situation. On a beautiful day in late March, we made the trip to meet and adopt little Boof.

Of course, the very first item I bought for him was a University of Kentucky dog collar. I’ve gotta hope he won’t remember his Buckeye roots!

As someone who doesn't consider herself an animal person, I've never felt strongly about dog legislation. I was never very informed. I've often held the opinion that responsible pet owners should spay and neuter their pets to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Besides Bob Barker telling me it's a good idea, it just makes common sense. Beyond that, though, I wasn't exposed to the world of bully breeds and the prejudice against them. I have a hard time believing that my sweet, adorable, all-he-wants-to-do-is-cuddle puppy could ever be vicious just because of his breeding. I can believe that he could be taught to be mean, just like the Dobermans I had a run-in with as a kid or just like any other individual vicious dog I've ever heard stories about. I think it just makes sense to blame an individual dog and hold that dog's owner responsible for vicious behavior rather than condemn that dog's entire breed.

If you're considering adopting a pet, consider adopting a bully breed. Be a responsible pet owner and disprove those who assume that viciousness is an inherited trait. Maybe we'll see you at Obediance Class!
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Derby Style


Ladies get your dresses and hats ready! With only a couple of weeks left until the Kentucky Derby, here are some last minute dress and hat combos that you can wear. Whether you are going to a Derby party or the actual Derby, a rule of thumb is dress to impress!

Outfit 1: Milly dress and Jane Millinary Fascinator
Outfit 2: Milly dress and J.Crew Straw Hat
Outfit 3: Milly dress and White House Black Market Hat

Are you going to the Derby or a Derby party this year?  If so, what are you wearing?
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Route 23

Built in 1926, U.S. Route 23 was conceived as a North-to-South highway spanning from Detroit to Jacksonville.  Unlike the sleek, efficient Interstate Highway System that would later come into vogue, U.S. 23 and its contemporaries meander through small towns across the country.  It offers few tourist activities, and the scenery is usually pretty modest -- small homes, even smaller post offices, and the errant law office -- but for Eastern Kentucky natives, Route 23 is so much more than a road.  It's a symbolic journey to economic improvement, a sentimental drive home, and the birthplace of country music royalty.  It's a lesson in industry, and economics.  It's the road we take when we run away, and the road on which we inevitably return.

U.S. 23 winds through the heart of Eastern Kentucky, coming in from Virginia at Jenkins and stretching north to Ohio along the river bank in Ashland.  This 144-mile stretch traces the journey of Kentucky's coal industry -- from the coal mines in the heart of the region to the tipples and factories in the more industrial Northeast corner of the state.

Near Prestonsburg on U.S. Route 23.

For Appalachia natives, this stretch of road is known mainly as the road to the factories of Ohio and Michigan.  To our uncles and grandfathers, it was the road to a better life.  Jobs at the Detroit automotive factories lay at the Northern tip of Route 23; my own family history is filled with stories of carloads of young men leaving the hollers and making the trek north.  After graduation in the '50s and '60s, few job prospects arose in Appalachia.  It was only in researching this piece that I learned that Route 23 was known as a Hillbilly Highway for the escape route it provided young Appalachians seeking a better life.  I certainly did know, however, that the lyrics to Floyd County native   Dwight Yoakam's 1980s hit "Readin', Rightin', Route 23" rang true to so many of our friends and family. 

In the years since Dwight first sang his powerful tribute to Route 23's legacy, the Kentucky portion of the road has been nicknamed the Country Music Highway , since a famous country music singer hails from every county along the stretch.  Road signs along each county mark these famous sons and daughters, and a Paintsville museum commemorates their work.  The road commemorates the rockabilly sound of Dwight Yoakam, the haunting ballads of Keith Whitley, and the virtuoso performances of Ricky Skaggs.  The Queen herself, Loretta Lynn, is honored, as are the Judds.  There's even a sign denoting the hometown of singer/actor Billy Ray Cyrus, if that's your thing.

Abandoned farmhouse along US 23, Louisa

Abandoned farmhouse along US 23, Louisa

Route 23 has remained virtually unchanged for as long as I can remember.  It's an old road going through old towns.  It isn't the kind of road that attracts golf courses, shopping centers, or subdivisions.  It's a slice of old Americana virtually preserved in amber.  Recently, however, the stretch of 23 running through Johnson and Lawrence counties was affected by an intense tornado.  Homes were tragically destroyed, as were many fields and hillsides. Sections of Route 23 now present heartbreaking scenes -- homes are destroyed and hillsides demolished.  Yet, for Eastern Kentuckians, the road has always been about hope.  It's the promise of a better future.  It's the road to prosperity and better times. 

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Stars of the Country Music Highway:

Billy Ray Cyrus — Flatwoods

The Judds — Ashland

Tom T. Hall — Olive Hill

Keith Whitley — Sandy Hook

Ricky Skaggs — Blaine

Hylo Brown — River

Loretta Lynn — Van Lear

Crystal Gayle — Van Lear

Dwight Yoakam — Betsy Layne

Patty Loveless — Elkhorn City

Gary Stewart — Jenkins

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Ashley Judd does Kentucky proud


Ashley Judd recently wrote a piece for The Daily Beast addressing speculation over why her face has appeared puffy. She gets right to the point in the first sentence. “The Conversation about women’s bodies exists largely outside of us, while it is also directed at (and marketed to) us, and used to define and control us.” As a former women’s studies major, it was all I could do not to stand up in the middle of my living room and shout “AMEN!”

However, I feel pretty confident not all Kentuckians will feel the same way about her feminist critiques. Kentuckians have a complicated relationship with Ashley Judd and I believe that relationship only further proves her point.

I remember the first time I learned Ashley Judd was from Kentucky. It was probably when I realized she was a JUDD Judd - daughter/sister of the famous country music duo. I felt such pride. She was so beautiful, so talented, so articulate. I loved that she was from my home state. Even though I'm not a huge sports fan myself, I loved that she was such a passionate UK fan, always making her way home for big games. And of course, we ALL remember the famous hockey team poster.

Yet, as her celebrity grew, so did her political consciousness. It quickly became clear that Ms. Judd leaned  more to the left on the political spectrum. She also became an outspoken feminist - unafraid to speak her mind on controversial issues like abortion and most recently the objectification of women in the media.

(Side note: I met Ashley Judd at pro-choice march in Washington, DC, and she was nothing but incredibly kind and gracious to me...especially when I told her I was from Kentucky.)

Suddenly, I began to notice not every Kentuckian experienced the pride I felt when talking about Ashley Judd. People would criticize her outspokenness and say nasty things about her appearance or personal life. In fact, the place I noticed the most vitriol was among UK fans. You want to read some mean, nasty stuff about Ashley Judd? Go to a UK fan board.

It is almost as if Kentuckians feel they own Ashley Judd. But we don't. We have no more right to criticize her than a citizen of any other state. The truth is people's dislike of her has little to do with Kentucky and more to do with the subject of her essay - patriarchy.

Everyone (in Kentucky or anywhere else) was fine with Ashley Judd as long as she followed the #1 rule for women as "objects" to be enjoyed - you are to be seen and not heard. When she was the stunning actress who just happened to love UK, everything was fine. When she opened her mouth and started challenging things and making people (men and women) uncomfortable, the meanness began.

You know what's funny? I don't hear the same vitriol directed at George Clooney. Also a proud Kentuckian and incredibly physically attractive person, you'd think he'd be subject to the same rules. However, Mr. Clooney is just as liberal if not more so and he has said just as revolutionary things about women in the media. Yet, people seem much more comfortable with George Clooney saying things they disagrees with. I would argue it's because they don't see Clooney as an object they have some ownership of or power over.

Either way I am still proud Ashley Judd is from my home state. In fact, with every political statement or feminist critique, my pride only grows.


~ Sarah Stewart Holland
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