Summertime

When I was a child, the school year defined the seasons for me. Fall meant that my mom, sister and I could spend hours in the school supply section of every store without shame. Winter started when the last Christmas cookie was eaten at the classroom holiday party. Spring brought a new Easter dress, pinching shoes and the return of green to our world. Summer began on the final glorious day of school. Every year, my mom would pick us up from that last day and sing with us, “School’s out, school’s out, Teacher let the monkeys out!” at the top of our lungs, jubilant, on the way home. That was what freedom tasted like to my sister and me.

As I’ve gotten older, and maybe because I don’t have children of my own, the seasons are starting to fall in line with their actual solstices and equinox dates. Spring still starts with the first daffodil bloom I see or the first day the urge to break out the pasty white legs in shorts overwhelms me. Summer, though, summer seemed to really start last week, coinciding with that magical longest day of the year.

For me, summer brings the natural urge to have a popsicle after every meal. This is not so great for me waistline, but it makes for some happy reminiscence over favorite childhood treats. My favorite was always the orange sherbet push pop. The Flintstones were on the wrapper when I was a child. For others, it might be that a chocolate and peanut-covered Drumstick takes them back to Adult Swim time at the public pool – a kid’s best chance at attacking the snack bar for sweets. For yet others, those people I truly do not understand, the quintessential summer treat is a red, white, and blue Freedom Pop or Rocket Pop. Those always seemed like “city kid” treats (even though I was a city kid!) because you could get them from the ice cream truck with its magical  loop of tinkling ragtime music. As an adult, I find that music incredibly maddening rather than magical!

Summer also brings dinners cooked on the grill. In the past week, we’ve had hamburgers, steaks and salmon. My family has always been a charcoal grilling sort of family, and the smell of a grill full of charcoal briquettes heating up to cook large pieces of meat can instantly send me to evenings on the back patio watching my dad tend the grill with a can of Pabst Blue Ribbon in his hand (before PBR was hipster-cool). Since I got married a few years ago, I’ve been passive-aggressive about the refilling of our grill’s propane tank. I think my husband finally got the hint and just automatically buys a bag of charcoal when I suggest something grilled for dinner.

This week, the number one sign that summer is upon us took place. No, I don’t mean the forecasted triple digit temperatures. I don’t even mean the many Team USA Olympic trials taking place. No. Yesterday, my mom called me at work and said, “I’m having fried green tomatoes for dinner. Do you want to come over?”

Fried green tomatoes are my family’s signal that summer fun can begin. I remember my grandmother searching for the perfect green tomato at the roadside farm stand. I remember her, in her house without air conditioning, determining that it was worth it to stand over a hot iron skillet on the stove and fry up some tomatoes. I remember thinking that it was torture to have to wait for the sizzling bits to cool off enough to pop them in our mouth. I remember the searing pain when we weren’t patient!

My mom has since taken over the unspoken tradition of the fried green tomato. Slicing the unripe fruit, dredging the slices through a mix of flour, salt and pepper (no cornmeal in this family, thank you!) and tossing them in an already-sizzling cast iron skillet. Once nice and golden brown, she scoops them up and deposits them on the waiting paper towel-covered plate. Eager and greedy eyes wait and watch for a signal that we can start eating them.

Last night, my mom, sister, cousins and I rang in the still young season with a fresh batch of fried green tomatoes from Happy Jack’s Farm while my nephews regaled us with stories of how awesome their summer break already is.

It’s summertime, y’all.

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Redbud and Dogwood Winter

Appalachia, Mountains, Eastern Kentucky
When I was growing up in the mountains of Eastern Kentucky, I rolled my eyes at a lot of conventional mountain wisdom.  Some of that was, of course, the traditional child's prerogative; parents and grandparents simply can't know what they're talking about with their old-fashioned perspectives.  And, to this Muppets-and-Madonna-loving child of the '80s,  old-timey mountain traditions seemed a relic of a long-gone era. 
redbud tree, eastern kentucky, redbud winter, dogwood winter, appalachia

As an adult, I've had to rescind quite a bit of my know-it-all scorn. The twangy mountain music that my granddaddy played on his vintage Martin guitar sounds curiously like the hipster-standard Raconteurs and Avett Brothers tracks that fill my iPod.  My grandmother's Crisco-and-butter cooking turned out to be far healthier than the fake food revolution of my childhood.  And, so many pieces of folk wisdom -- the most embarrassing, "unscientific" observations of the natural world -- have turned out to be true.  I've been forced to eat my words time and again.  The most dramatic example is Redbud Winter and its close, usually later, cousin Dogwood Winter.  
Dogwood winter, Appalachia, Eastern Kentucky 
Now, when I was a kid, I hated hearing about these supposed weather phenomena.  When the first warm spring rolled around, it should be warm and pretty and springy from then on.  Without fail, someone would note "Oh, it'll get cold again.  We haven't even had Redbud or Dogwood winter yet.  Don't put your coats away." That was surely just an old wives' tale.

Except, it wasn't.  Every spring, the pretty, delicate blooms on the flowering trees brings a dramatic cold snap.  This year was no different -- last week brought 85 degree days, then the redbuds and dogwoods started to peek out.  As I started to unpack my spring dresses and shorts, I immediately thought that I'd better leave out a few cold weather items, just in case.  Of course, redbud winter came a few short days later, bringing cold mornings and brisk days.  

I guess the old-timers are right after all.


{all photos were taken in my mom's Floyd County backyard over the past week or so...}

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It's just a cup!

The year was 2007. I was 26 years old, prancing through the aisles of Bed, Bath and Beyond looking for a new trash can. Due to my tendency of wanting the latest and greatest, of course it had to be stainless, and be the most fancy model out there. Don't worry though, I restrained myself from purchasing the one with the automatic lid opener.

But I digress.

In the middle of the aisles - you know, the ones that are hard to navigate your shopping cart around, typically filled with Yankee Candles and "As Seen On TV" items - there was a lady making quite a fuss over something.

"But they're on sale! I can get enough for the entire family. Maybe I can get some for Christmas or birthday gifts!"

I passed her off as being a loud-talker, but of course my shopping mind had to see what the fuss was about.
The Tervis Tumbler
Those of you deeply rooted in Southern tradition might have said "oooh, I get it!" Not me. I looked at them and thought "$15 for a plastic cup? Crazy lady.

I left with my massive, fancy trash can in hand and I forgot all about the cups....

Until next week back on campus at UK (in grad school), I saw these things EVERYWHERE! Then at friends houses, I noticed them. I finally asked what the deal was with the cups.

Friend: *gasp* "You mean my Tervis Tumblers?"
Me: "They have a name?"
Friend: "What planet do you live on?"
Me: "One without one of these cups?"
Friend: *gasp* "it's a tumbler, not a cup!"

And so it went. I was educated on the Tervis Tumbler - the cup that didn't ever get condensation that you could have little "badges" inside for customization, and that you could drink with cold or hot drinks.

A couple of years ago I finally went ultra-Southern and not only bought a Tervis Tumbler, but one with the Lexington Junior League on it.


Today, I saw that Tervis now has a water bottle. Considering this is my current beverage container, perhaps a cute Tervis water bottle would be a good backup?


How many Tervis Tumblers do you have? Do they have any badge/patch things inside of them?
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Southern Christmas

Prior to being a Kentuckian, I was a Georgia peach. Granted, I was only 12 when I moved here, but my mom was from Savannah and had a slow, southern drawl to her speech. She was mega-Georgian.

Anyway, growing up, I quickly realized the grandeur of the Southern Christmas. Not sure where the revelry comes from in the tradition with my family as we were never particularly religious. I do know that Christmas time was my favorite as a child, and to this day have really strong inclinations to keep some of the Southern traditions intact despite not having family around.

Hubs grew up in Lexington, and has a different version of a Southern Christmas than my family did. They focused much less on material items, decorations, and food than we did. Perhaps some of that comes with having a large family and enough chatter to fill the house with color.

Ingredients to my Southern Christmas:

  • The tree. Real or fake, but white lights only. Ribbons must be present and theme trees are acceptable (in color or category). Multiple trees are encouraged as well if there are children - they get their own tree.
  • Needlepoint stockings hanging on the fireplace mantle. Bonus if the names are on the stocking. At Christmas, stockings must be overflowing with lots of goodies. Some of my favorite things were in the stockings, just because they were unexpected and thoughtful. 
  • A wreath on the front door.
  • A tree skirt with tradition. I have the one my family used growing up. It doesn't match the tree or my house decor, so I cover it up. Still, I know it's there and that's all that matters.
  • Food. Lots of food. Staples include: pecan pie, pumpkin pie, ambrosia, ham, turkey, giblet stuffing and gravy, cranberry sauce, mashed potatoes (fresh, not from a box, and with real butter), baked macaroni and cheese, green bean casserole with those fried onions on top, yeast rolls.
  • Holiday-scented potpourri or cinnamon pinecones around the house.
These days the food is much lighter, the potpourri has been replaced with Scentsy and hubs and I don't do stockings, but I still have my little semblance of my Southern Christmas. 


What does your Southern Christmas look like?
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Unpopular Opinions

My mother isn't a sports fan.  

Repping the Big Blue, late 70s.
It's kind of crazy, really.  My daddy used to be a basketball coach, as was his daddy before him.  My beau and I live and breathe UK basketball and football. My brother is an obsessive fan of both of those Cincinnati pro teams.  Any time my family gets together, the conversation turns to sports, sports, and more  sports.  There's at least one person sporting a team logo at any given time, while my  poor mother fakes her way through it.

Music City Bowl, 2007
And so, we find ourselves in late October.  I'm, as you can well imagine, obsessed with the upcoming basketball season, one in which we have the potential to win it all.  I'm studying up on Coach Cal's latest Dream Team and counting the days until the season starts.  Yesterday, my mom hit me with an odd query: "The news keeps referencing a potential new stadium. That seems kind of extravagant in the current economic climate, doesn't it?"

I own a lot of Kentucky shirts.
I immediately answered her with all of the pros and cons of Lexington's great arena debate.  I presented the economic benefits that potentially exist for the University and for the city.  I tried to frame it in reference to the campaign platforms of mayoral candidates.  But, ultimately, my answer came down to recruiting.  I want my team -- my grad school alma mater-- to succeed.  That's my number one agenda item.  And if first-class facilities are the key to another title, then facilities are what I want, whether refurbished or rebuilt.  I realized that the conversation between my mother and me wasn't about an information exchange.  It was a bigger-picture debate among Kentuckians: those of us who live for basketball, and the quiet minority who don't. 

Unpopular opinions are something that we here at Her Kentucky have been talking about quite a bit lately.  We've been discussing many of the Kentucky traditions that one or more of us just don't get.  Burgoo, mint juleps, hot browns, Ale-8, even my beloved Kentucky basketball.  Just because we're all Kentuckians, we don't all love "Kentucky things."

Over the next few weeks, Her Kentucky will bring you a series of blog entries about unpopular opinions.  We'll be discussing some of the Kentucky traditions that fall short of our expectations.  We'll give you some ideas that you don't quite see in the travel brochures.  We'll most likely drop  the phrase "there, I said it" a time or two. 

Until then, we'd love to hear any unpopular opinions y'all may have.  

What Kentucky traditions fall short of expectations for you?

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